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TikTok parental controls for a 13-year-old

At 13, direct messages are not available, the account is private by default, and the daily screen-time limit starts at one hour. The steps below are the ones we could read on TikTok's help pages. Ages 16–17 use a different message default, so this page does not describe that age.

TikTok

Profile, menu, Settings and privacy, Family Pairing. Link as the parent from your own account. The teen cannot loosen a limit you set.

  1. Do not look for a TikTok spending switch

    On your phone · about 3 min

    Family Pairing does not include a spending control. Buying and sending Coins and Gifts is limited to 18 and older, or 19 in South Korea. The backstop is purchase approval on the Apple or Google account.

    1. Turn on Ask to Buy or Family Link purchase approval on the phone.
    2. Tell your teen that Coins and Gifts are an 18+ feature, not a switch you can tune inside Family Pairing.
    TikTok minimum age

    Checked 30 Sep 2026

  2. Link Family Pairing from your own account

    Both of you together · about 8 min

    You set the limits on your account, and they apply on every device the teen uses. Restricted Mode and the daily screen-time limit also stop the teen from logging out or switching accounts.

    1. On your TikTok profile, open the menu, then Settings and privacy, then Family Pairing.
    2. Choose Parent, and follow the steps to link the teen.
    3. Talk through it first. You will be able to review settings and blocked accounts. You are not reading their messages from this screen.
    TikTok Family Pairing

    Checked 30 Sep 2026

  3. Leave precise location off, and skip location tags

    On your kid's device · about 3 min

    TikTok only collects device location (approximate or precise) from users 18 and older. For under-18s it still estimates an approximate location from the SIM card, IP address and device settings.

    1. Do not turn on Location Services for TikTok on the phone.
    2. Ask your teen not to add a location tag to posts.
    TikTok location services

    Checked 30 Sep 2026

  4. Confirm direct messages are not available

    On your phone · about 3 min · Direct messages are not available at 13–15.

    Ages 13–15 do not get direct messages. The account is private by default, downloads are off and cannot be turned on, and other people cannot Duet or Stitch their videos.

    1. You should not see a direct-message control for this age. That is expected.
    2. Leave the account private. Comments are limited to friends, and “Suggest your account” is off.
    TikTok privacy settings under 18

    Checked 30 Sep 2026

  5. Keep the account private

    On your phone · about 4 min

    Accounts aged 13–17 are private by default. Family Pairing can also turn search on or off and review who they follow, who follows them, and who is blocked.

    1. In Family Pairing, leave Discoverability set to private.
    2. Review blocked accounts, following, and followers while you are there.
    TikTok Family Pairing

    Checked 30 Sep 2026

  6. Hosting a LIVE is 18 or older

    Both of you together · about 2 min

    TikTok Support says you must be 18 or older to host a LIVE.

    1. Do not look for a Family Pairing switch that lets a teen host LIVE. TikTok Support says the host has to be 18 or older.
    TikTok minimum age

    Checked 30 Sep 2026

  7. Leave notification muting on overnight

    On your phone · about 2 min

    Push notifications are muted by default overnight: 9 p.m. to 8 a.m. for ages 13–15, and 10 p.m. to 8 a.m. for ages 16–17.

    Default quiet hours are 9 p.m. to 8 a.m.

    1. In Family Pairing, confirm overnight notification muting is still on.
    TikTok Family Pairing

    Checked 30 Sep 2026

  8. Set the daily screen time

    On your phone · about 4 min · On by default at one hour for ages 13–17.

    For ages 13–17 it starts at one hour. You can change it from your account, and one limit covers all of the teen's devices. There is an optional passcode if they ask for more time, plus a schedule for time away.

    1. In Family Pairing, set the daily screen time. One hour is already on.
    2. If you want a passcode before extra time is allowed, turn that on.
    3. Add time away for the hours the phone should be down. The teen can request more time.
    TikTok Family Pairing

    Checked 30 Sep 2026

  9. Turn on Restricted Mode

    On your phone · about 3 min

    Restricted Mode limits mature content. It also turns off the Following feed, going LIVE, and gifting on LIVE. With Family Pairing on, the teen cannot log out to escape it.

    1. Profile, menu, Settings and privacy, Content preferences, Restricted Mode.
    2. Set a passcode. You can also turn Restricted Mode on from Family Pairing.
    TikTok Restricted Mode

    Checked 30 Sep 2026

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